When someone excessively uses something like an emoticon or what not (like this grin, for example - ^___^) almost everyday, one would start to assume that it's just to reinforce the idea that they're fine and just have nothing to say and simply grin to pass the time by. That particular grin can be paired with a few letters or symbols to denote a few other things:
- ^__^ b - thumbs up
- ^__^ v - peace sign
- (b ^__^)b d(^__^ d) d(^__^)b - two thumbs up
- ^__^;; - anime style sweatdrops
- ^__^ !! - eureka moment
- ^__^# - anime style vein pop, shows anger
- (~ ^__^)~ ~(^__^ ~) ~(^__^)~ - waving arms happily (no actual interpretation; dependent on people involved)
Well, this is beside the point, of course. This was just for a little extra information on expressions. Haha.
My point is, that grin is a double edged sword for someone who excessively uses it. While others who don't get exposed to it on a daily basis will assume you're just grinning happily the whole time, others who DO get a daily exposure to it will start to grow suspicious and start piecing things together. What you say with words and using the expression such as that grin can contradict you every so often in their perspective and just not blatantly tell you so.
Four months of daily chat is enough for someone to quickly tell the difference without a flinch. What started as passing the grins off as simply grins developed into pinpointing the 'fake smile' from the real smile when partnered with phrases at particular points in time for that person.
People can be adept at this technique of figuring things out. Those who openly admit that they can do this will sometimes be blinded by the reality that they themselves are being read as well by the same people who they think are not as well-developed in using that technique of seeing through fake smiles.
One will come across many people in their lifetime; chat with so many, but end up forgetting most of them along the way. But there will be a select few who will grow to understand and offer to stay should they be allowed to. Don't betray the trust of these people. They who understand how one operates have a better chance of becoming one's long-time friends.
So.... to conclude. No matter how one acts and thinks - be it negative and demeaning - the people who truly understand them will not truly leave. The wrongdoings of one who doesn't care for others are overlooked by people who really care. But sometimes, one's stubbornness to commit to egocentrism will end up forcefully pushing these people away, and just end up all doom and gloom and hate things more than necessary.
One's happiness shouldn't come at the expense of ruining somebody else's happiness. It never should. Compensate for what can't be taken by taking hold of things that can be shared. Friendships are beautiful like that. Endless connections can be made and people in them should know the borderline of when to stop the intimacy with those who are in relationships. Respect the sanctity of the relationship they're in and yearn to keep a close, platonic friendship instead.
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